A Very hard question indeed. We have a neighbor that is in genuine distress. This guy has been hit by lighting several times, run over by a truck and numerous a sundry illnesses, bi- polar. His needs are REAL. he comes by daily. Mostly asking for pot which we supply along with some occasional cash. For all he has been though, he is a rather sweet Natured man. His need is such that he comes by every day. He asks for work but there is little to do in a trailer park. But Patti has been digging up things she would like to have done that she thinks he may be able to handle. At first I welcomed him. then I found myself a little resentful at having been asked every day to help. After a bit of soul searching I rectified myself. His needs are as real as my own. So now we do what we can without harming ourselves and leave, as we must, the rest in God's hands. I feel we should all do what we can, even give up a bit if we need to in order to help those God has placed before us, But I also think that to give to much so that we are pulled down into a position that we can no longer help ourselves is a serious mistake, Two in a hole doesn't get anyone out of the hole. So we circle our friend like a black hole. Throwing him a line, but being careful not to be pulled in. It's all complicated by the fact that in a trailer park with 12-15 spaces he is one of three bi-polar people all in need of at lest some assistance. It's all made easier by the fact that we are community. We all pitch in to meet their needs as best we can. They are feed and warm. So we feel full and comfortable Row, the trailer park saint has been grabbing up old worn out trailers, fixing them up just a bit so they are livable.. They don't have hook ups as they are occupying a empty place in our park, not a space with water power and sewage. so they must haul water and sewage. .They charge their batteries,( Row, found them batteries). from our power. We've managed to scrounge up a few good tarps to cover and rain proof their small trailers for winter. If one looks it becomes very clear that our Bi-polars are what keeps this place happy and content. Their needs and meeting them creates our community.